Becoming, the retreat for women in midlife.
You can feel it: something is changing. In your body, in your priorities, in what you want from life. Perhaps the life you have built still works, but parts of it no longer feel like yours. Perhaps you have spent years caring, organising, achieving and being what others needed—and you want to hear your own desires again. Perhaps you feel something opening. A curiosity about who you could become when familiar expectations loosen their hold.
You sense there is more to this transition than symptoms alone. Something is asking for your attention. An invitation to listen more closely—and begin choosing what feels right for you now. An invitation to make the start of your second chapter... a conscious one.
Becoming is for women who want to give these questions time, space, attention and companionship. It is a space created for you. To remember. To reveal. To become who you truly are. It is a rite of passage, where we go through the change together.
Maximum 10 women. May 2-8, 2027. The nurturing surroundings and blissful silence of Gaucín, in the south of Spain.
You are so welcome.
Early bird prices until December 6, 2026.
May 2 - 8, 2027. Andalucía, Spain.
For women who feel there's more to midlife than symptoms and treatments.
Life is full of initiations. Moments where we can feel we leave one chapter behind, and step into the next one. Not knowing what lies ahead of us. The space in between can be uncomfortable. We grieve what was, but can't see what's coming yet. There was a time where these important times of change in people's lives where consciously celebrated. Where people gathered to help each other across the treshold. To share wisdom. Grieving the part of life that ended, consciously pausing and reflecting, and then celebrating the new lifestage they stepped into. That is what Becoming is for you. A journey. A remembering of what midlife has always been: the beginning of your second spring.
Make it a conscious one.
Inge Delva
Your host & Midlife midwife
Arrive. Pause. Unravel. Remember. Reclaim. Become.
Your next chapter
Deserves your attention.
Life keeps moving. Responsibilities continue. It is easy to move through a significant transition without making space to notice what is changing—or ask what you want now. Consciously honouring midlife means giving yourself that space.
To acknowledge what has mattered.
To grieve what is ending.
To notice what no longer fits.
To listen for what wants to emerge.
From there, you can begin making choices that honour the woman you are today.
At Becoming, we make room for this together. For your uncertainty and your knowing. Your tenderness and your pleasure. The parts of you that need rest, and the parts that are ready to come alive.
A rite of passage
Not another wellness retreat
A retreat offers rest. Restores energy. And may leave you refreshed. But it doesn't necessarily encourage true change. However, that is what midlife - the change - is asking of us.
Midlife is a liminal space. A threshold in between. You are no longer who you were, and not yet who you are becoming. This inbetween brings discomfort. The kind that most women try to escape, while that is where the magic resides.
A rite of passage helps you to remain in the discomfort long enough for something new to emerge. It's a space where we don't force the answers, but instead: honour the questions. We don't create transformation, we reveal and support a change that life has already set in motion. Together.
It asks for your courage. It asks of you to surrender. And it will leave you fundamentally changed.
What you can expect:
One journey, Three movements.
1 - Separation
Your midlife reflection needs space and time. It cannot be rushed. It does not get enough air if at the same time you need to keep going. That's why you need to step away.
Leave your everyday surroundings and responsibilities for a week. Slow down enough to notice what you have been carrying, what has shaped you, and what you may be ready to release.
2 - Threshold
Between what is familiar and what comes next, there can be uncertainty—and possibility. To move from one to the other, what is needed, is for you to make space.
Through reflection, body-based practices, creativity, rest and conversation, you are invited to explore this space without needing to rush towards an answer.
3 - Integration
As the week draws to a close, we make space to consider what you want to carry into everyday life.
A need you want to honour. A conversation you want to have. Something you want to make room for. A first choice that reflects what matters now.
We celebrate this next chapter together, witnessed by the women who have shared the journey.
What you will experience
Becoming is designed as an experience. Every meal, every silence, every conversation, every ritual: they all melt into one journey. The schedule of our week together is not the real structure. Our emotional journey together is. These are some of the ingredients:
- Daily movement, somatic and reflection practices.
- Women’s circles, ritual and celebration.
- An intuitive painting workshop that reconnects you with your feminine energy, your desires and your power.
- A gentle somatic release workshop that helps you slow down, soften and release built-up tension from your body.
- Nourishing meals and unhurried conversations.
- Spacious afternoons for rest, silence and time in nature.
Some experiences invite you to listen through your body. Others offer a way to express what words cannot quite reach. And sometimes, what you need is an afternoon with no plans.
I'm Inge
Your host & midlife midwife
I believe midlife deserves more space, care and recognition than our culture usually gives it. In my own life, this transition has invited me to question familiar roles, listen differently to my body and reconsider what I want to give my time and energy to.
My work brings together menopause education, somatic practice, coaching and the facilitation of women’s groups. I am also the author of 'Ik wil mij terug'.
At Becoming, I bring that experience into a week where you can pause, explore and be supported.
I won’t arrive with answers about who you should become. I will offer guidance, practices and attentive presence as you listen for your own.
Your home for the week:
In the beautiful surroundings of Gaucín, in southern Spain, there is room to exhale.
Wide views. Quiet corners. Nourishing food. Time outdoors. Space to enjoy your own company and the company of other women.
We stay at Tribu del Alma, with accommodation in shared twin rooms.
Some rooms have a private bathroom shared by the two occupants; others share a bathroom with another room. One room also has a terrace with a view. You can indicate your preferred room when registering, subject to availability.
Come on your own—you don’t need to bring a friend to belong here.
“The entire retreat was one wonderfully blissful experience outside my comfort zone. After a difficult time, it gave my confidence — and my trust in myself — an enormous boost. Supporting and being supported, coming home and feeling at home with women who, until recently, had been almost complete strangers. Magical invitations to go deeper, a beautiful setting, delicious, wholesome food for both body and soul… Thank you for making this possible.”
"The retreat was a beautiful gift to myself! A week of slowing down, feeling, laughing and simply being. What touched me most was realising that I’m allowed to truly shine, with everything I feel. Vulnerability is strength.
The varied programme and personal attention made the retreat unique. But above all, it’s the time spent with the other wonderful women that will stay with me. I wish everyone could experience a week like this — being cared for, recharging and coming home to yourself. Thank you!”
"What I loved most about this week, was getting to know myself better. Discovering parts of myself that haven't been able to bloom up until now. And taking the time and the space to explore them a little bit more, so I can take them home with me. I also loved the community we created together. Through the stories of the other women, I also got closer to myself. "
"I would recommend this beautiful week to all women in midlife. It is the best gift you can get, or gift yourself. It is a space where you are allowed to be your pure, vulnerable and authentic self. If you know your second chapter awaits, but you don't quite know how to get there or what the first steps are, then this is where you want to be. Yes, the best gift ever."
Frequently asked questions
What are the dates and timing?
Becoming starts on May 2nd, and ends May 8th, 2027. You are welcome at the venue on Sunday as of 4 pm. We need to leave the location on Saturday before 11 am.
How do I get there?
The retreat takes place in Gaucín, Andalucía, Spain. Flights and airport transfers are not included. Book your flight to the airport of Malaga. We recommend booking your flight as early as possible, as prices tend to increase as the start date approaches.
Next, book your transportation to and from the venue. It takes 1.5 hour to get from the airport to the venue, so make sure your flight arrives on time on Sunday, and does not leave too early on Saturday. On Sunday, you are welcome at the venue as of 4 pm. On Saturday, we need to leave the venue before 11 am.
We will be happy to provide you with contact details of a taxi company. You can also decide to hire your own car (contact me if you want to do this, as I can give you a discount code). We will help participants connect with each other so you can book your taxi or rental car together and share the cost.
Will I share a room?
Yes. Accommodation is in shared twin rooms. Bathroom arrangements vary by room and are shown in the room descriptions.
Do I need to be experiencing menopause symptoms?
Symptoms are not the focus of this retreat. Becoming is for women who recognise themselves in the transition of midlife and want to explore its personal meaning.
What language will we speak?
The retreat will be facilitated in English. You do not need perfect English, but you should feel comfortable following guidance and joining conversations in English.
I understand it is not always easy to express yourself in a language that is not your mother tongue. Please know that this is a space where we embrace being imperfect. So nobody expects of you to speak or write perfect English.
Maybe it is reassuring to know that I (Inge, your guide in this intensive) am a certified translator 🙂 I speak and understand English, Dutch, French, German and Spanish. In other words: I will be happy to translate for you if needed. But most of all: please feel welcome to be perfectly imperfect.
I won't know anyone at the retreat, this makes me hesitate...
We understand. It can feel a bit scary to start an adventure with new people. At the same time, that is exactly what many women prefer. At a retreat, you often discover parts of yourself that have been hidden. You will sometimes want to share things that feel vulnerable. There is a big advantage in doing this with people who don't know you: no masks to wear, and you can be completely yourself. This can feel so liberating. You experience becoming yourself, while also belonging to a group of women who do exactly the same. For many of these women, all faces will be new faces. So you will not be the only one. And rest assured: after each of the past retreats that we have organized, the women had become friends. Spending such an intense week together, immediately deepens connection and creates a bond.
What will we eat during the retreat?
The most nourishing, yummie and healthy food you have ever tasted. Miek is the best cook you can wish for. She creates the most amazing dishes for us, three times a day. We start with a buffet-style breakfast, at lunch and dinner we enjoy a nourishing meal together. Bonus: delicous coffee and tea, Miek's roasted nuts (she needs to hide the jar during the day) and chocolate and strawberries in the evening.
In all seriousness: all meals are vegetarian. Do you have any allergies or intolerances? Please let us know so we can take them into account.
Why does the retreat include daily movement?
Our bodies hold deep wisdom. Reconnecting with the body, helps you access that wisdom.
The movement during the retreat will be adjusted to the participants and may include gentle yoga, somatic exercices, walking, restorative yoga, ...
Do I need movement experience to participate?
No previous experience is needed. Guidance is offered throughout, and you can participate at your own pace.
However, if you ave any specific injuries or illness to take into account, please reach out beforehand so we can discuss how this affects your participation.
Do I have to share in the group?
You don't have to do anything!
At the same time, it's in the sharing and being witnessed that the medicine happens.
You decide what to share and how much. Some women share deeply; some share minimally. Becoming doesn't require exposure. It requires presence. And I invite you to discover for yourself where your edge is. Where you need to respect it, and where you maybe need to take one courageous step and discover what that brings you.
Is this therapy or medical care?
Becoming is a facilitated retreat for reflection, connection and personal exploration. It does not replace medical care or individual psychotherapy.
If you have questions about whether the experience suits your current needs, please contact me before registering.
Can't I just work 1:1 with you?
Yes, that is also an option! You can book a Midlife Clarity Call with me here. In this session, we will look at what's going on for you in-depth, face to face in an online Zoom call. A Midlife Clarity Call = 2 hours of my undivided attention and lots of guidance tailored to your specific situation.
Not sure you are ready for Becoming?
Maybe spending a week abroad with a group of women is not for you. Maybe you don't like travelling. Maybe you don't have the time or the resources to escape for a week to focus on you. Maybe you do want to discover what the discomfort of midlife is trying to tell you, but you want to do so from the comfort of your own home. At your own pace. Whatever the reason is, I've got you covered. RECLAIM is my 7 day online journey where I bring the exact presence, guidance and attunement that I bring to Becoming. For just €67.